Proactive parts - managers

Preemptive controllers that keep life neat so exiles stay “safe”.

Description

Managers perfect, plan, and police. They fear chaos more than they fear pain, and will trade intimacy for predictability without much hesitation. Criticism is a favourite tool, because in the short term it works on you.

They are also the reason a lot of good things in your life exist. Managers are why you have a calendar, a career, and clean socks. Most of them do not need dismantling — they need a role that is better described other than “prevent all feelings”.

What Proactive parts - managers is NOT:

Not executive function, and not discipline, though a manager is delighted to be mistaken for either. Rough test: if it can flex, it’s probably a skill. If not doing it is unthinkable, it’s probably a manager.

Examples:

Editing an email ten times so that nobody can be disappointed in you.
Standards that, conveniently, no candidate for closeness can meet.
Researching the decision until the decision expires.

see also:

Protectors; Reactive parts - firefighters; Exiles; Boundaries