Proactive parts - managers

Preemptive controllers that keep life neat so exiles stay “safe”.

Description

Managers perfect, plan, and police. They fear chaos more than they fear pain, and will trade intimacy for predictability without much hesitation. Criticism is a favourite tool, because in the short term it works on you.

They are also the reason a lot of good things in your life exist. Managers are why you have a calendar, a career, and clean socks. Most of them do not need dismantling and want less tiresome roles than to “prevent all feelings”.

What Proactive parts - managers is NOT:

Not executive function, and not discipline, though a manager can be delighted to be mistaken for either.

Examples:

Editing an email ten times so that nobody can be disappointed in you.
Standards that, conveniently, no candidate for closeness can meet.
Researching the decision until the decision expires.

see also:

Protectors; Reactive parts - firefighters; Exiles; Boundaries