Working with us

IFS sessions, online

One to one, by video, with either of us. Below: what happens in an hour, which of us may suit you better, and what it costs.

English · Italian · Polish

Video sessions from 95 EUR for your first session — with either of us.

We work with IFS, and bring in other tools when they help: coaching, Focusing, Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness, inner facilitation. The aim is depth in the session, and ways of holding yourself well between them.

What actually happens

The shape of an hour

New to the model? The ninety-second version is here; you don't need it before a first session, but some parts can like knowing what's coming.

  1. 01

    We talk, and something comes alive

    You say what's going on and we listen for the place where the tone shifts, or a phrase repeats, or you say "anyway" and move on quickly. That's the trailhead.

  2. 02

    We find who's holding it

    Instead of solving the problem we go looking for whoever is carrying it, and stay long enough to get its shape: how old it feels and where it sits in your body. This is the part people can find strange at first for about ten minutes and then not at all.

  3. 03

    We check how you feel toward it

    "And how do you feel toward that one?" If the answer is irritated, or scared of it, another part has joined us, and that one gets the floor first. The whole hour can turn on this question.

  4. 04

    We ask the protectors what they're afraid of

    "What would happen if you stopped doing this?" The answer is sometimes the most useful thing said all hour, sometimes something you've never heard yourself say, and sometimes what was in the background all along.

  5. 05

    We stop somewhere you can leave from

    Resolutions don't arrive on schedule. We aim to stop where your system is settled enough to get on with the day. Pacing is a craft, and we'd rather do less well than more badly.
    It doesn't always work out: something unexpected can surface in the last ten minutes, and some systems need longer sessions or more time to land. Which is why…

  6. 06

    If at all possible, give yourself some landing time

    Integration happens between sessions, and it starts the moment one ends. Online, it's tempting to squeeze a session between a meeting and a chore, and you can: there's no commute, and when we hang up you're already in your own space. Still, give yourself at least ten minutes afterwards to write things down, look back over what happened, or just be.
    Longer is often better.

You stay in charge — and find out what that means for you.

  • Nothing gets approached without the consent of whatever is guarding it. If a protector says not today, that's an answer.
  • We go at a pace you can digest rather than one that makes a good story afterwards. Going in at full intensity is a mistake, not a milestone.
  • You never have to relive anything. If you find yourself back in something at full volume, the pacing was wrong and that's ours to fix.

The short version: this is titrated on purpose, and protector consent is not a formality we perform before getting on with what we intended anyway.

Which of us

Same model, two different styles

Pau

Pau

Certified IFS Practitioner & Coach, Level 3

English · Polski

currently accepting new clients

Warm. Curious. Hears what's underneath the words. Challenges when it counts.

Getting to know the parts behind your patterns, especially in relationships, desire and intimacy, and learning to lead them yourself.

Probably you if…

  • The same relationship pattern keeps showing up, no matter how well you understand it.
  • You're navigating non-monogamy, sexuality or intimacy and want someone who won't flinch.
  • Something opened up in a psychedelic experience and you want help bringing it into your everyday life and relationships.
  • You've been managing well for years and you want more than managing.
  • You'd like to leave with skills you can use on your own, not only insights.

Gradually, Pau has helped me find the courage to feel what I have been avoiding, sometimes in a session but often on my own as I have learnt how. I have noticed myself behaving and relating in ways which feel braver and truer.

Bethany, client
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Alex

Alex

Level 2 IFS practitioner, coach & facilitator

English · Italiano

currently accepting new clients

Sharp. Pragmatic. Will push at times, and will say so first.

Work aimed at something outside you: a decision, a career, a relationship, an experience that needs integrating. 20+ years of meditation and embodiment practice behind it.

Probably you if…

  • You want movement, and you want someone to scrutinise your assumptions.
  • You think a great deal and feel less, or the reverse, and want the two connected.
  • You're integrating a psychedelic experience, a spiritual emergency, or a large life transition.

Not afraid of scrutinizing your assertions and assumptions — a must-have skill for a good teacher.

Sascha, client
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Genuinely unsure whom to book? Write to us and we'll help make it clearer.

What people bring

Things we work with often

Each of these has its own page: who it's for, how it runs, what it costs.

What it costs

First session — 95 EUR

The same full session as any other, priced so that finding out whether we fit is easy. With either of us.

Single session — 150 EUR

185 EUR for 75 minutes

One-to-one IFS, online, whenever you want one. No commitment beyond the hour.

If you want to go further

Starter · 4 sessions — 560 EUR

140 per session · with Pau

One session tells you whether you like working with me. Four tell you whether the work works — enough time to find a part, get to know it, and notice your relationship with it starting to shift. Weekly rhythm; four sessions within six weeks. Paid upfront.

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Ongoing weekly — 125 EUR per session

billed every 4 weeks · with Pau

Your hour, held. Same time each week, kept for you — for work without a fixed endpoint, which is how most of this work actually goes. This is where the deeper arcs happen: protectors relax because they've learned you keep showing up, not because anyone talked them into it. Two weeks' notice to pause or stop; no lock-in.

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Ongoing fortnightly — 140 EUR per session

billed every 4 weeks · with Pau

A regular session every two weeks, with a reserved time in Pau's calendar. A sustainable rhythm for people who want continued depth work with more time between sessions. Billed every 4 weeks. Two weeks' notice to pause or stop.

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Alignment Intensive · 3 sessions — 375 EUR

125 per session · with Alex

Three sessions to get something moving. Enough to name what's actually in the way, hear from the parts with a stake in it, and leave with a direction you can act on — not a plan imposed from outside, but one your whole system can get behind. Good for a decision you've been circling, a transition you're mid-way through, or work that keeps stalling for reasons that aren't about the work. Use them within eight weeks.

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Prefer longer sessions? Any pack session can run 75 minutes for the 35 EUR difference — just say so when booking.

Two directions, one model

Inward, or outward?

Which one needs the attention right now?

Inward

Inner Alignment

Understanding the system, meeting what needs support, letting parts put down what they've been carrying. The direction emerges, at the pace your system sets. Mostly Pau's territory.

Outward

Outward focus

The same model aimed at something specific: a stuck decision, a pattern that keeps costing you, a life that doesn't fit. We call this Aligning Your Life and there's a whole method behind it. Mostly Alex.

More on Aligning Your Life

In practice these overlap constantly — outward work keeps turning up inward material, and vice versa. Pick the one that sounds more like your direction and we'll follow whatever actually shows up.

What this is for

What people leave with

Not a new personality. More like: clarity about what's actually going on in there, and a different relationship with it. Life decisions stop being civil wars. The question quietly shifts from "what do I want (and why don't I just do it?)" to "what's best, for me, my parts, and the people around me", which somehow turns out to be a much easier question to answer.

Concretely, clients tell us: the inner critic got quieter without being fought. The thing they'd been avoiding for months finally happened, sometimes after twenty minutes, sometimes after weeks. They argue differently now: "a part of me" leaves room that "you always" doesn't.

We also do this on ourselves. That's why we're here.

When we're not the right call

We only take work we think we can actually help with.

  • Neither of us is a licensed psychotherapist. If you're working with a diagnosis that requires clinical support, or you want a therapist specifically, we can be useful as an additional support, but not as the only one.
  • If you're in acute crisis, you need support sooner and of a different kind than a booked session next week. Please go to your local emergency service first, or find a crisis line near you.
  • Sessions are paid privately. They aren't reimbursable through health insurance or national health schemes.
  • Parts language isn't for everyone. It can be unhelpful, occasionally destabilising, for people currently experiencing psychosis or strong paranoia. And if the plural framing simply doesn't land after a fair try, that's information rather than failure.

Common questions before booking

How long is a session, and what does it cost?

Video sessions run about an hour — 150 EUR, or 185 EUR for 75 minutes, with either of us. Your first session is 95 EUR. If you want to go further, we each offer packs that bring the rate down (see above).

What are the packs?

With Pau: a Starter of four weekly sessions (560 EUR, so 140 each) to find out whether the work works — valid for six weeks, paid upfront. Ongoing weekly or fortnightly (125 EUR or 140 EUR per session, billed every 4 weeks): a standing slot for work without a fixed endpoint, with two weeks' notice to pause or stop — see Ongoing weekly and Ongoing fortnightly. Most people start with the Starter and settle into Ongoing.

With Alex: the Alignment Intensive — three sessions for 375 EUR (125 each), used within eight weeks. Enough to get something unstuck and leave with a direction, rather than an open-ended arc.

Weekly or fortnightly?

Weekly sessions help build momentum, particularly when you're starting out or working with something that needs sustained attention. Fortnightly sessions offer more time for integration between meetings and can be a good rhythm for longer-term work.
We'll find a frequency that suits you and the work we're doing.

What if I need to cancel or move a session?

With 24 hours' notice, we'll reschedule — free and easy. With less than that, or a missed session, the session counts as taken. If you're going away (or we are), two weeks' heads-up means those weeks simply aren't billed.

What if I want to stop before using all my sessions?

That's completely fine. If you decide not to continue, just let us know. We'll refund any unused sessions in your pack at the original per-session pack rate (140 EUR for Starter, 125 EUR for Alignment Intensive).
Sessions already completed, cancelled with less than 24 hours' notice, or missed without notice aren't refundable.
For ongoing weekly or fortnightly sessions, we ask for two weeks' notice to pause or stop.

What if it doesn't work for me?

That's useful information. Say so. We'll stop, and see whether we can resolve it or help you find a better fit.
An Ongoing weekly or fortnightly slot takes two weeks' notice. Unused sessions in a Starter or Alignment Intensive pack are covered above.

Do I need to know IFS beforehand?

No. Some people like the ninety-second version; others start cold. Either is fine.

What languages do you work in?

Both of us work in English. Alex also works in Italian — there's a page in Italian too. Pau also works in Polish. Say what you need when you book or write.

Pau Wojnar · Certified IFS Practitioner & Coach, Level 3. Alex Pedori · Level 2 IFS practitioner, coach & facilitator.
Last updated October 2026.